Marriage & baby on the brain!!

Ever since I moved to Houston I've been seriously thinking about the future of my relationship. Living 2000 miles apart for the first year and a half of my relationship kept my expectations for growth limited. I know this man loves me and is in it for the long haul, but with that kind of distance things can only go so far.


I read this post on NC17's blog Men Choose, Women Settle Black Girls Are Easy and thought to myself, what's wrong with me claiming the man that I want?

I have been proposed to three times, three different men, three different rings...and I didn't marry any of them! I'm not traditional in a sense of waiting for my man to propose to me. My focus isn't having an elaborate story to share with my future grandkids after the divorce about how my ex-husband swept me off my feet with a ring and a promise.

My focus is staking a permanent claim on the man that I believe with all of my heart I am supposed to share forever with. Who gives a damn about who asked who? Thirty years from now I still plan to be happily married to this man.

Then there is this constant nagging itch to have one more child. I had all but cursed the idea of giving birth to another child, now I'm thinking about names for my future nonexistent bundle! I'll be 33 in August, my bio clock and patience is running out of batteries. I always told myself that 35 would be my cut off, and I also told myself that I wouldn't have another child unless I am married.

Should I put a ring on it?? Hmmm...I just might!

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Thirty Days of ME...Day 20

Day Twenty- Someone you see yourself marrying/being with in the future

This is a question I didn't have to think about. My boyfriend Tyrone is the love of my life. Before him, I never pictured myself growing old with another man. Something about him changed every thought I had about men. He entered my life at a point where I needed calm and stability. He offered me something that no other man ever had, all his love no strings attached. He asked me for something no man ever had, all of my heart without dollars attached to it.

I could go on forever about my love for this man. He is more than I ever dreamed about having in a partner. He is my best friend. He is that missing link in my life that I searched in all the wrong places for. When I become the "Mrs" and we head into forever I know that God has truly smiled upon my life. Just for knowing him the way that I now do, I am a better woman. For that I am grateful.