This post is in direct response to the post on Mrs. Pancake's blog
HERE'S THE LINK TO HER POST. I'm not going to lie, the topic rubbed me the wrong way. I'm not mad at her for bringing it up, I'm a bit baffled by the context and responses.
On the real in my humble personal opinion, as adults (when we have children) we have a responsibility to raise complete and productive members of society. How does wearing a ring (married or unmarried) have anything to do with that??
Okay you're married, you have a husband..that's great! I know plenty married men that are absent in their marriage AND their children's lives. I'm sick of folks passing judgement based on the absence of a wedding ring. You can be married and be un-fucking happy and have the most disrespectful kids walking!
Or you can be a single mom, co-parent with you child's father and keep it moving! If I chose to, I could "stunt & front" slap on a wedding band and give people the "perception" that I am married but for what? To save face for others? Fuck NO!
I stopped giving two shits about what people "think" about me years ago. I'll tell someone to their face that they can kiss my ass twice...you don't have to like me but you will respect me...PERIOD. Look at me sideways if you want, I'll call you on it!
As a mother, I take my responsibility seriously, if you meet my girls you'll know that. Me not wearing their dad's ring has nothing to do with it. If everyone was so happily married, the divorce rate would not be what it is, that's real.
As women and mothers we need to stick together. There shouldn't be a stigma associated with not wearing a ring and having a child. Your marriage IS NOT GUARANTEED FOREVER...sorry! The reality is you just might end up divorced just like 50% of others in a few years. It's a toss up!
The only one to judge is God. I fear God, I do not fear anyone else and what they think. Be mindful if you are married and judge a mother with her children and she's not wearing a ring. You do not know her story, it's not your business...that is all.
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